Fe/male Switch
Are you a woman getting into startups?
Get yourself a drink and let the Mean CEO warn you.
It doesn't matter if you are smart, experienced, with great education and work 80 hours a week to build your company...
Some will be unhappy
because they are jealous of your success and they will try to bring you down by calling you names. Study this dictionary to understand what it is that they mean and go on to be happy and successful against the odds.

Concise dictionary

of what a narcissist said and what he really meant

(based on a true story)

narcissist:
You are arrogant.
true meaning:
You are very confident and i'm intimidated by it. I am not used to women saying no to me and whereas I would call a man "confident" in this case, I will call you "arrogant" because confidence is not a female characteristic.
narcissist:
I will decide if we can work together.
true meaning:
I am a control freak. Only i decide if I do any business with you. You don't have any say in this and I enjoy this power dynamics. If you try to protest, I will show how frustrated that makes me feel and I will stalk you on social media by posting passive-agressive comments.
narcissist:
You rant a lot.
true meaning:
How dare you express an opinion that is different from mine? A woman should not open her mouth. Just look at my wife, she never says a word. Be like her.
narcissist:
You sit in that beautiful house of yours while someone else is paying for it.
true meaning:
I am scared that a woman has a house that is so pretty and I will never accept the fact that a woman can be smart. Instead I will use the oldest trick in the "handbook for mysogynysts" and imply that someone else is making things happen for her.
narcissist:
You are very agressive.
true meaning:
How dare you make your position as an expert known! How dare you put me back in my place when I'm wrong!
narcissist:
You seem to have an anger issue.
true meaning:
I will say something that implies that you don't know what you are talking about and call your posts aggressive. This gives me an excuse to say whatever I want because your sarcastic reaction to my narcissistic provocations does not please me.
narcissist:
Your style is unacceptable.
true meaning:
I am pissed off that you are not behaving the way I want you to behave. Who the heck do you think you are? Change everything about yourself immediately.
narcissist:
I wanted to help because I am nice.
true meaning:
I don't have a single woman at the top of my company. Neither do I have any testimonials from any women entrepreneurs. And I know that this is frowned upon in the EU. So I decided that I will use you to put a female face onto my website. And of course I will also make money on that. So double profit.
narcissist:
You are entitled.
true meaning:
How dare you say no to the proposal that is beneficial for me but not for you? I already told my buddies that I got them a girl.
narcissist:
I'm pretty good at reading people and I immediatelly noticed your special character.
true meaning:
I showed up to your event (after asking if it was really free), enjoyed the pool together with my wife, ate as much as I could, drank more than anyone else, seeing as i'm a cheap ass. Then I reached out to you on social media and got annoyed by your no. I started making comments under your posts so that you didn't forget about me. Then you kicked me out and I received an email from your lawyer. And then another email and another one because I just couldn't let it go and tried to offend both you and the lawyer. And then I immediately noticed that you are mean.
narcissist:
You are self-righteous.
true meaning:
It's not possible that you know more than I do, so I will prove you wrong and make an ass out of myself in the process. I don't know anything about it but I will pretend that I do and will call you aggressive for pointing out data privacy law violations. Go back to the kitchen, woman.
narcissist:
You don't realize how privileged you are and I can't stand that.
true meaning:
Why do you have a beautiful house with a gorgeous pool and I don't? And how dare you ask for gender equality that European Commission has already imposed? How dare you say no to me? How dare you use sarcasm against my mysogynist words?
narcissist:
So they use mrs instead of ms. What a drama against humanity.
true meaning:
Women are never going to be as good as men. However, I'm still afraid that mean women like you will take my spot. I don't like women like you, I can't control you. I like obedient women.
narcissist:
I just asked a polite question.
true meaning:
I made a passive-aggressive comment. I haven't actually asked any questions but I couldn't just say nothing. I was furious that you were ignoring me in private messages so I made sure you noticed me in public.
narcissist:
You are not very smart, by the way.
true meaning:
Talking like that to me is not good. I know investors and investors don't like women like you. And if I don't introduce you to investors, nobody will. I am your only chance. Not a single investor will even look at you after what you did to me.
narcissist:
You use an old-fashioned very masculine style.
true meaning:
I am a sexist man. I just can't accept the fact that women can behave the same way as men.
narcissist:
Did you climb into that pool of yours in pure anger?
true meaning:
I can't let go off the fact that you have a villa with a pool and I don't. And that's why I continue watching your posts on social media to make sure I don't miss anything.
narcissist:
I feel very badly attacked by you.
true meaning:
You put me back in my place and I am not OK with that. That's what my mother did to me when I didn't behave properly.
narcissist:
Don't ever contact me again.
true meaning:
I was the one who initiated all the interactions that we ever had. How come you never wrote to me to beg for forgiveness? That's just rude.
narcissist:
It was a mistake on my part to want to help you.
true meaning:
I am infuriated that you didn't do what I said. I don't care that you said that you were not looking for VC funding at the moment. I want to do what I want to do. That's why I use the word "help" in every other sentence that I write to you.
narcissist:
The topic of mysogyny has nothing to do with it.
true meaning:
Stop complaining about the old ways of doing things. Bend over and continue being called MRS instead of MS. You are arrogant and you have anger issues, but don't you dare say that i am a mysogynyst, you can ruin my reputation.
narcissist:
You are running all this?
true meaning:
Are you kidding me? You? A woman? You are actually the CEO of two companies? Nah, that can't be true.